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How to Clear the Drain When Your Marriage Gets Clogged
Essential Tools for Marriage Maintenance
Marriage Will Not Fix the Problem
In my pastoral experience, I have found that many engaged couples expect marriage to fix the problems that exist in their dating relationship.
Conflict will evaporate in the atmosphere of marital bliss, right? Wrong.
Big-time wrong.
Marriage is not going to fix your problems. It will only make them worse.
Sorry to burst your bubble.
Now look, there will be problems in any and every relationship. No way around it.
But we can possess tools that can help us deal with it. Just getting married is not one of those tools.
If you are going to get married, expect the relationship to need ongoing maintenance.
Like an automobile, marriage needs maintenance in order for it to run effectively for years down the road. But if we don’t have the tools to deal with problems as they arise, then the marriage (like a car) will continue to experience more and more problems until it just breaks down and stalls out.
We need tools that will help us face the inevitable marital conflict.
